Yesterday I discovered I won $100 playing lottery the day before. I of course was excited and my first response is to go out to eat. I had been planing on making meatloaf but I had forgotten to get the hamburg out the night before so it was frozen and I hate when I have to thaw out hamburg in the microwave so I knew we'd have to find something easy to eat so winning that money was nice.
I called dh at work and he said okay. He called me back later to say he was really tired and didn't want to go out that we could go out for dinner today, which was fine with me. My mom ended up calling shortly afterwards and offered to take the boys if we still wanted to go out. I had called earlier in the week because we were going to go to a church Christmas program. I said well I think we're going to stay at home and she said, are you sure? So I called dh yet again and asked if he wanted to go out if mom and dad watched the kids. He said sure.
I had skipped my shower that morning cause I got up late so I went upstairs to get a shower and fold laundry and get ready. I'm just finishing up getting ready when dh got home from work. Now you have to understand that I no longer work and most of my adult interaction comes from my husband so having a night away I had to dress up a little bit. I even did my makeup and my hair and put on perfume and I shaved my legs too.
Do you think this man, that I have lived with for nearly 9 years noticed any of that? Nope. I finally said, at least the boys think mommy looks pretty so of course he starts, oh you always look pretty, blah blah blah blah. Not happy. Do you think he could make up for it later that night and just say that I looked nice at some other point? Nope. It was like I was in a sweatshirt and jeans like every other day.
This morning we're in the shower together, I was using my new body wash from Bath and Body works that is really pretty smelling. Do you think he notices? Nope. I even said something about it and mentioned that not once did he notice last night that I put on perfume. Now you would think, knowing I was upset and would like some encouragement and a nice word that he would say something at some point this morning or afternoon. Nope. Not even a you look nice or that perfume smells pretty, nothing, zip, zero, zilch.
What is wrong with this man? It's not everyday that I get dressed up, it's not everyday that I wear makeup and perfume, so I want a nice word when I make the effort and he can't do it. Urgh. He frustrates me. Now if I was going out with my sister or just going out alone and I put on makeup and perfume he'd notice, thinking I was putting on to impress another man, but I do it for him and he doesn't notice.
Do you think he'd notice if I put on a sexy nighty tonight am waiting for him in it when he walks in from work? Yeah, I doubt it too.
Saturday, December 15, 2007
What is wrong with my husband?
Posted by Anonymous at 5:26 PM
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yup... I know what you mean. When I do myself up really nice he asks who I'm dressing up for.
My husband rarely ever notices. Or, worse, he may notice but not comment. It is really frustrating and it is so nice to have those words of affirmation. I try telling this to my husband and get the same, " you always look beautiful" blah-blah-blah.
I hope you guys at least had a great time at dinner sans kiddos!
I've had similar situation with my husband. I'm about three months pregnant and was feeling down about how I looked one night after he made a comment about a lady he works with being pretty. I told him I was feeling fat and ugly and it would be nice to hear that I look good sometimes too. His reply was "not everyone can be a model" and I thought, what is that supposed to mean? All I wanted to hear was really that I wasn't looking ugly. But instead he said I put him into an awkward situation and shouldn't pressure him to compliment me.
Then tonight I thought I would put on full make-up and heels to see what he would say when he got home from work. I thought I actually looked good, but it would feel good coming from my husband. We had a long conversation about nothing and he never noticed, or at least never bothered to say anything. The only comment he said as he walked in the door was, "you're taller." I was disappointed, it wasn't exactly what I was looking for. A compliment and being noticed means so much to a woman and I just don't think men understand that. I think I'll be sending myself flowers soon!
The flip side of that coin is that, when you haven't showered, your legs are stubbly, your face is completly sans makeup and you are in sweats and an old hoodie he sees you in the same way. I am the only woman in a family peopled with men and a workplace full of them. Most of my friends are men. They have all seen me looking my best once or twice - but usually they see me grubbing. They know and understand me and don't think I look nearly as bad on my bad days as I do. They may not notice my dress up days, but I think it is a fair trade for being able to rough-it and still be beautiful in their eyes.
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